We’ve forgotten how to communicate through touch. Sure, we give others an occasional hug and a kiss on the cheek, but new technology has affected how we relate to people. We’re under the impression that we’re more connected to each other but it’s not true: a screen will never be able to replace a touch on the hand or a pat on the back. This is worrisome since touch is the first sense we used to communicate and it’s the one we lack to do better today.
Apegeo knows that physical contact is crucial for our well-being so we want to give you some reasons why you should start practicing it today.
1. Touch is part of how humans were made to communicate.
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Touch is intrinsically part of the way humans are designed to communicate. It’s the first sense we use to do so and it can be considered our first real language. Just ask any mom how sometimes touching her pregnant belly could encourage kicks from her baby.
The idea that nonverbal communication, such as posture and looks, is essential for understanding each other is not new. However, only recently has a study proven that we can interpret emotions from other kinds of nonverbal communication like touch. We’re born knowing how to “speak touch” and using this language not only lets you express more than one emotion at a time, like gratitude, pride, and satisfaction; but touching another person also makes their message more clear.
2. It’s crucial for a healthy relationship to thrive.
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Using touch in a relationship is vital to communicate emotions to foster a connection, satisfaction, happiness, and a sense of safety and belonging. The bond can become so strong that scientists have found that couples only need to hold hands to synchronize their brain waves, heartbeats, breathing, and the easing of pain.
Furthermore, touch is so powerful that it can induce biological effects on your partner. It causes the brain to release oxytocin, also known as the hormone of love, which is a substance that makes you feel happy, satisfied, and in love.
3. Touch is so important for babies, it’s literally a matter of life and death.
Even when all their basic needs like food, rest, and diaper changing are met, research shows babies who are daily deprived of touch can die. If the mother, father, or any other adult in the absence of the parent doesn’t hug, kiss, hold and cuddle the baby for long enough, their development and mental health can be affected and ultimately, their lives. This may be one fact that can prove how vital touch is for human beings.
Scientists know touch is transcendent to healthy physical, emotional, and mental development. Some believe that our need for touch is connected to our need for love. It would have been a survival tool we developed during evolution to help us stay alive.
4. It’s key to our mental health.
Because we’re social animals, our basic needs require touch. The majority of our social interactions are accompanied by a kind of Physical Touch like a pat on the back, a handshake, a hug, or a greeting kiss, depending on the culture. They help develop a relationship of trust. That’s the reason why loneliness is not only considered a lack of social interaction with people but also of physical interaction.
Touch helps us become conscious of our personal and physical boundaries, but letting someone come through those boundaries allows familiarity to emerge and lets us connect with friends and lovers.