Psychologists all around the world are ready to sound the alarm: the amount of emotionally immature individuals has increased drastically. Many people remain kids at ages 30, 40, and even 50. Yes, they may have a family, an apartment, a car, and a good job. But inside, they’re chronic toddlers or teenagers who always look for those who can help them like the government, elderly parents, a psychologist, colleagues, and more.
Apegeo has decided to collect the main features of “eternal children.” You’ve probably faced 1 or 2 of them in your life.
8. “Mom, they hurt me!”
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People who are psychologically stuck in the “child” stage always start complaining and asking for help. Thus, they behave like victims and look for a savior who will get things under control and figure everything out for them.
- What does it look like? Small children are vulnerable without parents. So when they feel bad they start crying.
- What to do? Psychologists call this state “responsibility deficit disorder” and recommend relatives and friends not to take responsibility for people who act like kids. Let them face the consequences of their nagging.
7. “When I grow up, I’m going to be a millionaire.”
You’ve probably met people who always dream about almost impossible things. For example, they want to win a $1 million dollar jackpot or become a boss in a big company. In their real lives, they usually spend all their time sitting on a couch or playing computer games.
- What does it look like? A child can’t assess their abilities yet so it’s easy for them to claim they’re going to be president when they grow up.
- What to do? American researchers have found out that the odds of winning either the Powerball or Mega Millions are around 175 million to 1. So it’s better to wait until your friend takes their rose-colored glasses off and then recommend they find another way to become wealthy and successful (like take up training courses or find a well-paying job).
When we communicate on the Internet, we usually see users who write, “I can’t understand, explain,” or “Where can I find it?” Such people often bother coaches and shop assistants asking for a free service. They’ll say, “It’s not so difficult to give advice, is it?” They simply don’t respect other people’s personal boundaries and don’t appreciate their time.
- What does it look like? A person subconsciously treats another individual like their mom who should explain everything in detail or like a buddy on a playground who should give them a toy.
- What to do? Don’t help a person who can’t deal with a simple task. It’s much better to say, “Google will help.”
5. “I feel so sad and alone.”
These types of people can’t stand to be alone. They become emotionally dependent on others and always try to please them. Being married, “eternal children” shift the responsibility onto their spouses and can’t let their adult children go.
- What does it look like? A child always needs protection and feels safe only being with their parents.
- What to do? Doctors call this state “dependent personality disorder” and note that people who suffer from it should turn to a psychotherapist for help.
4. “Tell me what to do.”
“Eternal children” believe there’s a perfect solution for each situation but they can’t find it on their own. Perhaps they understand that all bonuses go to those who work and apply their effort, for example.
- What does it look like? A child is always waiting for a miracle and knows there’s a kind wizard who will wave its magic wand and make everything okay.
- What to do? If something goes wrong in your friend’s life, you’ll be the one to blame. So it’s better to think twice before lending a helping hand or giving any advice.
3. “Nothing new. Unfollow.”
This behavior is often depicted in the comments and accompanied by things like, “I don’t think so,” or “smart people would do it another way.” In such conversations, they depreciate others’ opinions and often start insulting people’s looks, age, and so on.
- What does it look like? It looks like a teenager’s attempt to prove who is best and shows their desire to assert themselves on someone else’s territory.
- What to do? It’s better not to waste your time on such aggressive Internet users.
Each group of people who work together contains those who do everything and those who spend half the day drinking tea and scrolling their social media news feed. Psychologists say that both situations indicate these people are immature: they either do too much or vise versa, too little.
- What does it look like? A child needs adults’ approval. Even at school, they try to be the first to answer questions. Though if they’re punished for unfinished tasks, it’s not a problem — they’re sure that everyone still loves them.
- What to do? A boss should distribute all tasks evenly according to the employees’ duties. And those who like to work a lot shouldn’t completely forget about having to rest.
1. “And what would you do to me?”
These kinds of people don’t understand that they’re responsible for their actions. This includes individuals who fool traffic officers with t-shirts with a drawn seat belt and those who consciously or unconsciously make others’ lives more complicated like mindlessly leaving a shopping cart in the middle of the aisle at the market or asking something why they can’t get pregnant.
- What does it look like? An aggressive teenager will only obey the strongest member of their wolf pack. If they think someone’s weak, they’ll take the chance to assert themselves.
- What to do? When it comes to a situation with t-shirts like the one in the picture, it’s better to remember that all safety rules are significant and not silly: try to explain why. As for rudeness, it’s recommended to avoid these kinds of people all together.
Have you ever met these “eternal children”? Tell us about your experience in the comments!
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